During the past week, I noticed one of my female friends was frequently uploading her vacation travel plans and pictures along with other real-time information about her activities. I felt her energy and excitement and was easily able to visualize her travels along with her as her descriptions of scenery and weather were available by more than one of my mobile apps. Wow, I thought, she is telling such a nice story. Anyone could visualize along with her!
Another past acquaintance recently joined a local singles dating service (aka social dating meet up/social media with dating/meeting of people with similar interests/40 something , etc.) Her best photo is displayed along with a list of interests and material ‘likes.’ I know this is typical information shared on these sites – to attract dating prospects. But, I wondered, what about men who see this as ‘desperate women’ and ‘bait’ as they surf what is called by some, the ‘meat market?’What would be the impact?
This shift from appreciating my friend’s travel activities to a less than virtuous perspective is natural for me as I spent more than 20 years in law enforcement. I learned and know how to think like a criminal.
Other women I have noticed friend men on business social media sites for the purpose of developing a not only a business – but in some cases, a personal (dating) relationship.
How cunning the ‘criminal’ side of me thought. A sure case of ‘womengineering’ is meeting someone face to face and then making a post-acquaintance friend request. This men collecting (a term I have overheard women using) is obvious to many, but not the women who conduct this activity. Is this smart? Or is it cunning?
What does this have to do with women making themselves victims?
What these women have in common is “within the profile spectrum of women for targets.” Fantasizing about women targets is typical among the psycho minded, pervert attacker. A practiced attacker will work these women as their ‘field of prey,’ and seek to connect and gain confidence as information is exchanged. Are you starting to get the picture? If confidence isn’t established after a few exchanges and the ‘attacker’ feels rejected, you may be kept in mind for ‘later.’
You can be located by a persistent attacker, no matter how these sites protect your identification. Where you work, where you live, and where you spend your social time is available to anyone. Bragging about these connections via social media sites, tells more of a story than you may want. In no time at all, your complete profile is established. The wrong kind of profile.
I have come to learn that the old saying really is true … “what we think about and focus on, we get.” If a woman is on the prowl, collecting men with a less than virtuous intention, she is ‘being’ an exact match to the stalker. The negative, low energy she emits, even via the internet, is picked up by others with that same frequency of negative energy. Observant stalkers go after women who brag, reveal lots of personal information and become known for wanting more than a professional relationship.
Can you see the complex, in line set of circumstances that can lead up to a perfect crime? The spectrum of those attracted to this kind of woman consists of freaks, potential rapists, sociopaths, disease incubators, Facebook hussies, and collectors of men for now.
My intent in sharing this perspective stems from wanting to protect women … a positive ‘left-over’ from my years in law enforcement.
Men who stalk women on the internet savor the profile pictures they have printed. They often carry them around as ‘bragging rights’ and are shared freely.
Ladies, please consider … Geosocial Networking service, Foursquare, Gowalla, Follow Me, Check In, GPS, Google Places, and more, compromise and give away your privacy and may have you unknowingly SETTING YOURSELF UP as a victim. You may be making yourself easy to find, stalk, and assault because of what you reveal to the whole world.
I am often invited to speak to small groups about this subject in an effort to education and protect women. If you want to know more about this subject, just ask me.
